This article is for all the men out there. Guys, what if I told you that you have the power to make or break a relationship? Over my years of experience in relationship and marriage counselling, something that has consistently cropped up in my research is that what men do in a relationship is – by a great margin – the defining factor separating an amazing relationship from a relationship that fails!
Now, I really want your relationship to win; so I want to share this knowledge with you! So if you’re ready to understand exactly what it is that women want and need, how to best give it to them, and exactly what it takes to be in a happy, loving relationship with a woman in the long run — let’s take a look at these 4 Things You Should Never Say To Your Woman:
“What’s the issue now?”
This makes you look impatient and annoyed about what is more than likely her attempt at trying to connect with you. Every attempt she makes to connect with you is an opportunity to fulfill her emotional needs and connect with her on a deeper, more romantic level. This is foreplay! Don’t screw it up.
What you should rather say: “What do you have on your mind, my love? I’m here for you and I’m listening.”
“Your body used to be so sexy. I really miss it.”
This is far from a compliment — in fact it is a full-blown insult. If you want to talk to your lady about her body, remember that she is probably already looking at hundreds of ads every single day that show society’s image of the “ideal” feminine body. Research shows that even super fit and good-looking women tend to feel bad about their bodies. My suggestion: find something you really love about her body, or the way in which she moves, and give her a sincere and heartfelt compliment. Men who genuinely compliment their women each day have far better sex lives than men who don’t!
What you should rather say: “You look breathtaking tonight. That colour looks gorgeous on you.”
“Fine, have it your way like you always do.”
This kind of a statement turns her needs into a power play and ultimately a win-lose game. You’re suggesting that by having it “her way”, she intends to “win”. It also avoids bringing attention to the need she might have in a request she is making of you.
What you should rather say: The 2 Magic Questions you can ask a woman: “How do you feel?” and “What do you need?”
“Why are you always so needy?”
Again, this is a flat-out insult. This turns her need into an undesirable personality trait which is more than likely not even true. Everyone is needy. A relationship is an agreement of mutual nurturance, so her having needs and you agreeing to meet those needs is an implicit hidden contract in any romantic relationship. It also converts a potential opportunity (turning towards her need for you), into a statement of you turning against her.
What you should rather say: Refer to the 2 Magic Questions in point number 3.