Despite what pretty little romance movies make things out to be — love is wonderfully messy and complicated! Couples get on each other’s nerves, have conflicts, and do sometimes do really silly things. It’s all a part of what makes us human. When you are with the right person, though, there are specific qualities that shine through all of the mess.
No matter how frustrating your partner can sometimes make you feel, when you take a step back and look at the bigger picture, you can be guided in deciding whether or not it’s the right relationship for you.
So, take a look at these 5 Telltale Signs That You’re in Love With The Right Person, and see which points resonate with you:
You Plan for The Long-Term
When you picture your future life, you can’t imagine it without your partner. You can see yourselves together for the long-term foreseeable future. You know one another’s families — or if not, you’re working towards having everyone meet as soon as possible.
You and your significant other have openly and honestly discussed topics like marriage, kids, and where you want to live in the long-term. Both of you are willing to compromise for the sake of your relationship, and you feel comfortable and at ease with the speed at which things are moving forward.
You Have Healthy Arguments
Having no arguments is just as unhealthy as continually fighting. When you’re with the right partner, you understand that conflict is inevitable, and you’re truly interested in finding ways to work out your differences together.
You both feel comfortable enough to give your honest opinions, and you respect one another enough to consider every opinion as valid. You never attack your partner or just outright end an argument; but, rather, you argue your points and focus on conflict resolution. You always try to find common ground, and you mutually agree upon solutions.
Many people actually have to learn these things. I assure you — it is possible, and super important to do! Learning and practicing these skills with your partner can, in turn, make them the “right person” for you. Check out The Love Flame Method if you need some help with this!
You’re Best Friends
If you think back to when you were a child, did you ever have a best friend with whom you were completely inseparable? Maybe you spent long days playing in the fields, maybe you stayed up all night chatting, and maybe you shared secrets that you’d never share with anybody else. If one of you was in trouble, the other one was right behind, figuring out how to solve things.
When you are in love with the right person, it can sometimes feel a lot like returning to these simpler days. The difference is that now you may be dealing with the pressures of work and conflicting responsibilities (with not much time to play around in the fields). Nevertheless, the point is that you genuinely enjoy one another’s company. You tell each other everything, and you have an unwavering sense of reassurance that if something goes wrong for one of you, both of you will face it together.
You stick together through laughter and tears, and you comfort one another at all times. You’re not afraid to be goofy; and you’re not afraid to be vulnerable, either. You accept each other’s quirks, and you would do absolutely anything for one another.
You’re Happy Being Apart
A relationship is most healthy when both partners maintain their own, individual lives. They come together out of desire, not desperation. If you’re in love with the right person, you will know that you can trust them no matter what.
You are not jealous of their friends or hobbies. You also have a healthy personal life; and you value and enjoy doing your own things, too. You always know that you’ll reunite with new stories to share, and you never spend your time apart worrying about whether or not the relationship is strong enough to endure.
But You Would Rather Be Together
So, we’ve established that you’re not threatened by time apart; and you even enjoy it, you would still prefer to be together. You think about your partner whenever you’re apart, and you eagerly anticipate seeing them again. You feel like a natural part of one another’s inner worlds, and you’re most comfortable and relaxed when your partner is around you.
Guys, in reality, people fall in love for all kinds of different reasons, and not all relationships are built to last. If you’re trying to figure out whether or not your partner is right for you, take an objective step back and look at your relationship from the outside.
Do you feel most or all of the aforementioned points, at least sometimes? Does your significant other feel the same? If one or two signs are missing, don’t worry too much about it — especially if your relationship is relatively new! Deep and meaningful levels of trust take time to grow and develop, and you and your partner will find the right kind of balance that works for both of you. ❤️